Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Choosing Contentment: Part II
So it’s just me and my little chatty man on Thursday. I whipped out my calendar to assess what’s happening in the short term and nearly swooned. There are essentially no significant daytime “windows” for more than a week for stuff that really needs to get done. And now I have a day-and-a-half to play Cherry-O with Mr. Activity.
Red Light! Stop! Pause! Why so negative? What am I thinking?
My thoughts shifted immediately to Celine Dion and her apparent sadness over too little time spent with her child. And I thought about Sarah Bragg and what she said about contentment being a choice. I connected those two dots and found myself in the middle of decision-making process. I could spend the rest of the day fretting about what I “should” be doing, or I could seize the moment with my youngest son. I might never have another opportunity quite like it. Cherry-O. Batman. Forty-three continuous rounds of pick-up sticks. Whatever. Perhaps this is what I should be doing.
Just Daniel and me.
All of a sudden, I realized I was smack in the eye of a blessed opportunity. It was a beautiful day in Texas (85 degrees in November!), so we went to the playground. When we got home, we read books, did crafts, had a little Bible study, and just kind of hung out. When I was putting Daniel to bed that night, he said “Mommy, I’m sad this day is over.” And I was too. I didn’t get a single thing “accomplished” and it certainly wasn’t how I planned to spend the day. But Daniel and I built memories together and we created a day that neither of us will long forget.
A near-perfect day, actually. That almost wasn’t…
Question: What choices are you making when things don’t go as planned? Is there such a thing as emotional flexibility? Can you stop and "pause" and be deliberative about your emotional responses... continually seeking out what's good... versus riding the wave of feelings?
Coming Tomorrow: A Biblical Perspective on Contentment
(Photo of Daniel and his "Hugging Machine")