Monday, November 27, 2006
In a Rut? Out of Sync? Discouraged? Fed Up? Counselor Greg Wells Is Here This Week with Advice for Stronger Marriages!
In yesterday’s post, Sarah quoted a line by Mrs. Billy Graham, in which Mrs. Graham jokingly stated while she’s never considered divorce, she has considered murder.
As a counselor, I’ve seen many couples who were considering divorce. Most of those couples would tell you they never expected to one day be in my office desperately seeking my help. However, it happens to the best of us. Even me.
Five years ago my wife and I were at that same place—desperately seeking wise counsel about how to repair and renew our marriage. And while we, like Mrs. Graham, would never consider divorce, it was rather sobering to have our counselor point out that we already were divorced in our hearts; we just hadn’t made it official with the court.
Jesus says that “…everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Mt 5:28 NASB). Surely the same principal would apply to wanting to no longer be married to one’s spouse! Clearly there was a lot of work for me and my wife to do.
Since odds are at least a few of you reading this entry have been or will one day be in the same miserable place we were, I’d like to share a few general principals of communication we learned in our counseling that helped save our marriage. These principals are tried and true practical tips to help you through the rough spots and into a healthier and happier relationship.
Coming Tomorrow: Principal One: Say what you mean; mean what you say.
Greg Wells is the Director of Counseling Services at 121 Community Church and the counselor at 121 Counseling Services. An ordained minister, Greg is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary. He and his wife have been married for eleven years, and work together raising their two daughters. Greg counsels on variety of issues, including trauma/abuse and intimacy in marriage.
You can contact Greg directly at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
("Modern Couple" pic by Colin Gregory Campbell. See flickr.com for restrictions.)