One of the very best things a grieving person can do - and this has been proven over and over - is to go to a grief support group! So, yes, the answer is: seek out others in pain! But do it in a healthy environment. Nobody can understand you like someone who feels like they are you! Don't be afraid of support groups. Many hospitals and churches offer grief support/recovery groups. There is a "brotherhood" among grieving people that others can't understand. When I led grief support groups at the hospital, very often I didn't have to say a word for over half of the discussion time! They helped each other more than I helped them and that's the point!
This may sound like a "churchy/minister-y" thing to say, but cultivating an intimate relationship with your Creator now is really the only weapon you have for getting ready for loss, and for surviving it when it hits.
Good, hopeful concluding thoughts, Kathy Thank you so much!
Kathy Padgett is the Women's Lifegroup and Pastoral Care Minister at 121 Community Church in Grapevine, Texas. Prior to joining 121, she served as a hospital and home-care chaplain. Kathy is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary (DTS).
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